This blog post has been inspired by my travels, the words on my arm, and the amazing book I’ve just finished, The Saint, The Surfer, and The CEO by Robin Sharma (highly recommend!!).
I was overseas for 6 weeks, traveling non-stop with people constantly around me. Whether that was just Abbey and I, in a hostel room, on a tour, I wasn't alone once. If you know anything about me, you know I thrive around people but I also need time to recharge and be alone. So the last two weeks of my trip I spent on my own. Looking after me, refueling, developing, reflecting, and getting out of my comfort zone.
I’ve learned a lot about myself, about my interactions with new people, close friends, obstacles, etc. I’ve learned about my strengths and even more about my weaknesses. For some weird reason, I love finding weaknesses in myself as it means I have so much more space to learn and grow. I’m content with the fact that I am not perfect, nor do I strive to be. Life’s destination shouldn’t be hurried or rushed, we should revel in the journey and the person that we are becoming each and every day.
I can’t wait to uncover and share these learnings that come to me along the way, but for now, let me tell you what I know for sure.
“THIS, TOO, WILL PASS.”
If you are experiencing uncomfortable moments, grief, insecurities, embarrassment, please know that it will pass. That those feelings are required in order for you to grow and level up as a human being. “When life is smooth and steady, I’ve come to realize, we tend to live it on a superficial level. When life gets tough and we experience a crisis, we always end up doing some internal reflection and introspection. And so I think that the mystics and sages of the past were right when they observed that life’s greatest difficulties are actually life’s biggest blessings, for they serve to deepen us and open us up to a wider experience of living. Breakdowns always lead to breakthroughs.” Think back to moments where you felt great vulnerability and pain, think about how you felt in the depths of those moments. Did it feel dark? Ambiguous? Like it would never end? While those moments may leave scars on our hearts or on the skin, we always come through the other side and we end up stronger. We then acquire the ability to empathize and help others through their times of darkness.
Life never gives you anything you can’t handle.
“THIS, TOO, WILL PASS.” This quote doesn’t only refer to the uncomfortable times passing, it refers to EVERYTHING. All the joyous and loving things, people, and moments in your life are not forever. We aren’t promised tomorrow, nobody is, so be grateful for every second, every person, every possession that you are so blessed to have. The way I think about it is, if everything I had was taken away from me tomorrow, would I regret anything? Would I regret not telling my mum I loved her more, would I regret not standing up for somebody in their time of hopelessness, would I regret not being more present, would I regret complaining about my job every day, would I regret worrying so much about money, would I regret comparing myself to everybody else instead of living my own truth?
Everything is temporary. So live with intention. Act out of love. Trust that you are where you need to be and that you have the power within you to make it through any situation you are gifted.
The message of trust is what I want to leave you with. In times of worry and fear, when I feel lost and overwhelmed, the thing I come back to is trust. Trust that being a good person will lead you on the right path even if that path is longer and tougher. Trust that the past has strengthened you and that you have all the tools within you to handle whatever life throws at you. Trust that when you stop trying to control everything and let go, life will become more enjoyable and will flow more smoothly towards your dreams.
You got this,